Identifying the voice of our Inner Critic is essential. Without this awareness, we will not be able to point our lives in the direction we wish it to go.
An Inner Critic lives in our head. He or she is always there! We will hear him more loudly when we’re in a vulnerable position. What we actually need is lots of encouragement and acknowledgement. Our Inner Critic knows this and this is exactly when he’ll pounce and will call himself a realist. Let’s not be fooled – he’s ready to ruin our ideas and dreams, denting our self-esteem.
Examples of what our Inner Critic may say are “You’re not good enough, smart enough or thin enough. It’s going to be a bad day! Loser! Quit while you’re ahead. Don’t make a fool of yourself. You want to do what?!”
- We need to recognise him and stop him immediately.
- Changing our focus and moving our bodies into a different position (e.g. by going for a little walk and smiling) helps to shift our attention.
- We need to talk back, sing our praises and do things that raise our self-esteem.
– Mathew McKay (Author of “Self-Esteem”)
- What is our critic saying, which keeps us stuck and feeling incapable of change?
- How does this serve us?
- What does it cost us? ‘I feel miserable and de-motivated. It costs me true success, my self-esteem, happiness and inner peace.”